Are looks really a factor in this election?

by Shonda Ponder
November 3, 2014

The "Harkin commenting about Ernst's looks and how she responds" is the thing I hate about elections. Can't we stick to the issues? Who cares if someone says you are or are not attractive? And, the point I see in this is that Democrats are sick in the head to think that it is okay to refer to looks as being a commendation for anything. To me, as a woman (if you want to get on that "war on women thing", that is the WRONG thing to be focusing on when it comes to intelligent voting.

I compare it to dating. A single woman goes out to have a good time. There she meets a single (or otherwise) male who may want to get to know her better. A smart man would take stock of himself before approaching her if he thought she was worth it; which, too many times, depends on what he is after. What he is after determines whether or not she should (or will) accept.

Now, if he wants a temporary "fix" that might later lead to drama and heartache, he will say something like, "You are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in my life!" This will automatically raise flags for a smart woman because once he gets to know her, he may feel intimidated by her intelligence, expect less of her than she expects of herself, and try to keep her from ever growing beyond what he can see her as. Not good for a relationship.

If, however, he is looking for something better, he might strike up a conversation with her by saying something like, "I totally believe Obama is clearly misguided about women's values when it comes to staying home with their children. He makes it sound as if women shouldn't WANT to do that, and that he'd like to take that choice away from women if he could."

This challenges her to respond with what she really thinks, and I believe if a man is smart enough to start a conversation off like that, he's smart enough to know by her response whether she is worth taking out on a date. Furthermore, such a woman who has her priorities above her looks is smart enough to decide by his opening statement whether she even wants to engage in morally supporting a man who is willing to speak on what he believes.

Democrats who think women care about looks are perpetuating the war on women by using such abusive verbal attacks that are focused on making them feel insecure in their campaigns. If they really cared about women, they'd start asking women what THEY want. And Republicans who respond to it certainly have lost focus of their priorities.